My personal
experience with childbirth is a traumatic one. I will share the events
surrounding the birth of my son. I chose this experience because it is fresh in
my mind, and it also gives me hope, since my baby had a traumatic entrance into
the world, and now he is a healthy, happy child.
I
arrive at my obstetrician’s office for my 38 week appointment on a Tuesday afternoon. My ankles, legs,
and face are swollen; I can only fit into 2 pairs of shoes because of the
extensive swelling. My blood pressure is checked, and it is high. My doctor
advises me to stop working. I convince her to allow me to work a half day the
following day, so I can say goodbye to my students; she reluctantly agrees, and
writes me a doctor’s note. She informs me that it is unlikely my baby will be
born this week.
By Thursday I
have been keeping my feet up for the last few days, with minimal change in the
swelling. I am restless and uncomfortable. I begin feeling some contractions
during the afternoon, but attribute them to Braxton-Hicks contractions, which I
have been feeling regularly the last few weeks. Around 7 pm I notice they are becoming more
intense and seem to be evenly spaced. I consult the clock, and sure enough,
they are. When they reach about 10 minutes apart, I call my obstetrician for
advice. She advises me to come to the hospital. My membranes rupture shortly
before I leave and I notice they are heavily meconium stained. This is a very
bad sign. Throughout the next few hours,
the usual labor pains increase. I had been adamant about delivering my baby without
using any painkillers (especially an epidural- being numb freaks me out) and
what do I end up with? You guessed it- an epidural. My son is exhibiting signs
of being in serious distress, and as a result I am not allowed out of bed. His
heart rate begins to drop, and the obstetrician decides that she has seen
enough. She is concerned for the well being of my baby, and strongly advises me
to consent to an immediate cesarean section. I do, and my son is born at 3:59 AM on Friday
morning. There are no cries for what seems like an eternity. His initial APGAR
score is a 1. I am terrified. He is whisked off to the NICU, I am only allowed
to see him for a few seconds. The doctors there are able to get him breathing,
and his five-minute APGAR rises to a respectable 7. We are informed that he will need to spend at
least a week in the NICU, on intravenous antibiotics, due to his inhalation of
stool. They will be keeping him under observation to make sure there are no
more issues. There is also concern because his umbilical cord was wrapped
around his neck twice, and they are worried about how long he may have been
without oxygen. This new mom is incredibly afraid right now. My fears are
slightly calmed when I am finally allowed to see him, and he is beautiful! What
a little miracle. Then, he scares us even more at 24 hours old, when he has a
seizure, and another at 48 hours old. He is put on anti-convulsive medication,
and a week later, seizure-free, and having finished his antibiotics, he is
allowed to come home. Thankfully, today, at just under 5 months old, he is
healthy, growing well, and is being weaned off his medication, as his doctors
feel he no longer needs it. His scans were clear, and we will see what the
future holds. I credit my obstetrician for saving his life and possibly mine. I
feel that without the cesarean section, one or both of us may not be here
today.
From this
experience, I believe that the circumstances surrounding a birth can have
significant impact on child development. We believe my son’s response to the oxygen deprivation
and distress he experienced coming into this world was exhibited by the
seizures he had shortly after birth. There are no physical abnormalities on the
scans, nor were there any abnormalities on the brain wave test that was
administered. This experience delayed some of the mother-child bonding that
takes place after birth, since I was not permitted to hold him for about 3 days
after he was born. While I could touch and talk to him, it was definitely not
the same. Breastfeeding was also delayed because of this. We have also noticed
some increased muscle tone, especially in his arms, which is being monitored by
his doctors. Overall, we have not seen any developmental problems yet, and do
not anticipate any. Hopefully, his long term development will not be affected
by his birth experience.
After doing some research into how births happen
outside of the United States as part of an assignment for my course at Walden
University, I learned that many countries have vastly different approaches to
the event of childbirth. Take Germany, for instance; a country I chose because
of family ties there, both ancestral and current. In Germany, women see
midwives, not obstetricians, for their prenatal care. Midwives are so highly
respected and regarded in Germany that they must be present at every birth- it’s
the law. Doctors are optional, and called in only if there is a complication. One
German practice that I find appealing is that women who work full time are
secure in their position from the time they tell their employer they’re
expecting. They cannot be fired, and their position awaits them when and if
they decide to return to work. Women are permitted to stop working six weeks
prior to their due date and are barred from returning to work for eight weeks
after giving birth, all with full pay! This is a wonderful way to develop the
mother-child bond and ensure that breast feeding is well established, and that
mother and child have recovered well from the birth. Mothers are also permitted
to take up to three years of unpaid leave (with jobs guaranteed). I also
support Germany’s practice of keeping a list of accepted names that parents
must adhere to when naming their child. Their reasoning for this is to act in
the child’s best interests, by preventing potential ridicule of the child for
an incredibly unusual name. If parents choose a name not on the list, they must
give a compelling reason for an exception, and exceptions are granted on a case
by case basis. While I am not usually one that likes being told what to do, I
feel that in the United States, there has been an increase in parents choosing
names for their children that set them up for ridicule.
Information
obtained from:
http://www.parents.com/pregnancy/giving-birth/vaginal/birth-customs-around-the-world/